Add a Zing to Your Life

It seems Paulo Coelho's tweet seems to kick start my blog nearly every day.He tweeted,"A very dangerous sentence:"but we'have always done it this way"."

The thought is very interesting as it is trying to evoke creativity in us. Every time we do a job we should try to do it differently.It might happen that all the changes that we make in our style may not be good but then that is for us to learn from our experience and improve on the same.

So, that means we add an element of newness to our life and I feel that is what is the crux of this statement.Though Paulo is more into, asking people to accept when they are wrong and ready to improve I want to treat this in another light.

In the present world we tend to get bored very easily, we are most of the time depressed with the monotonous way of our life.And this is because we are repeating our tasks in copy-paste mode.We are not every time trying to be innovative in our way of handling tasks.As soon as we have a job, we try to look into our mind for the way we have handled it till now and then mindlessly applying it.

This is one of the main cause of our being restless at work and at home.We feel we are just repeating ourselves, not realising that it is because we are not ready to put in effort to do it differently.So, let us all, every time, when ever we get opportunity try to do even mundane task as preparing salad differently.

Yesterday-Today-Tomorrow

I read an article on how we waste most of our time divulging on Yesterday and Tomorrow.the article tried very hard to explain the wastage of time and energy done in this process.It also talked about how we should only concentrate on today and enjoy present, which actually is a "present" from God.

An interesting thought,which we come across most of the time!But in actual none of us are able to follow it most of the time.There is a very simple logic behind that.

Our Today is either going very good, good,bad or very bad.In first two cases we are no doubt enjoying today but in back of our mind is always the pain inflicted by those who were in contact with us when our time was not good.

Now , the thought that might strike you is if your present is good why am I assuming your past will be bad? Simple logic, good and bad are relative terms.If your today is good, it is good in relation to your bad past.

So coming back to the issue, you work out how you will settle all the scores left unsettled in past now that you have a good phase going on.

Also , coming from a bad past in your mind you know that this good will not last so you are busy planning for your future to ensure it is also good.In the last two cases, it is reciprocal of logic applied in above case.(Sorry for use of mathematical terms but mathematics is part of me!). 

When you are having a bad present you are again and again going over your past events which lead to this present.You are again and again rearranging those events in your mind to reach a better conclusion.

Also on the other hand you are day dreaming and mind you ,you are doing that day and night to visualize a beautiful future which seems absolute far fetched seeing your present state.

But this dream is your only source of survival in other wise die-able situation.What say?

Truth and Nothing but Truth

Paulo Coelho tweeted, “Telling the Truth and making someone cry is better than telling a Lie to make someone laugh.”

This thought has been on my mind since I read it. Somehow I find it very easy to follow as it means a life without any pretense, without any stress of planning, “What to say.”But I feel in 24 hours I shall have nobody around me to say anything, because we are all living in a world of PRETENSE. All our relations whether in family or friends or office are based on keeping a diplomatic silence on many issues. In the present world, I cannot think of even one person I can share “Whole truth and nothing but Truth”. This can be due to fear on my part to lose all that I hold dear or it can be complete faith that there is nobody around me with whom I can share my all thoughts. And I am very sure this holds true for all. In fact being a mathematics person I can easily apply law of Mathematical Induction and say that this statement cannot hold true for anybody living in this world. In the present scenario half the time we are not even telling truth to ourselves let alone anybody else.

human and parents: Human and Separation

human and parents: Human and Separation: When do we decide we had enough of the person in our life.Sometimes we keep on with same people just because we are too scared to change. ...

“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” ―Rumi

Can we all be wise? It will save us so much heart burn if we stop molding everybody around us according to our view.We waste most of our life time trying to sell our view point to others because we feel our view point is most correct.We feel that everything will fall into place when all will behave the way we want, not realising that each individual has his own view point.And every individual feels his view point is right and needs to be followed by all.So why not just agree to disagree!Why not just do our best to make the journey comfortable for all and not try to prove to everyone around us how right and perfect our view point is!

Me and My View

CNN talked about virtual autopsy of King Tutankhaman, how the historians had assumed that the 100 walking sticks found in his tomb represented his power while actually they were used by King Tut to move around as he had a severely defected left foot.

This revelation made me think of how we assume so much in life based on our experiences .We build theories on our half-baked information. Then we float these theories around to others, convincing them of our correctness. We do this every day. We analyse situations based on our experiences, never bothering to confirm whether we are correct. We analyse people too with same confidence not realizing that they are not mummy like King Tut who cannot be bothered by your interpretations. People get hurt and sometimes beyond repair.

So let us all try to be more sensitive to feelings of others. Also let us not assume we know all. Give a benefit of doubt to all.

As they say “All is not as it meets the eye.” 

Hope and Wait

In all situations that are tougher than the usual, there is as much a human can do. After that he just can sit, wait, pray and hope.
 Hope for what?
Hope for Him to do his bit. There is no doubt in his benevolence only His time never matches ours. He always takes His own sweet time to get into action, the learned say that He knows the best. But what about our blood pressures. Who will tell our little heart that goes pit-patter-pit with fear that do not loose hope, wait, and have patience He will pull you out right a millisecond before drowning.
Well! all of us have no choice but to pray , to hope and waiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit!

Reinforce Today and Tomorrow

Reinforce Today and Tomorrow

I never thought I shall be reinforcing my Today Tomorrow thought so soon.But the volatility of time is unbelievable these days.
One of my good friend had planned an event for the day. As I was going to be in office so I had sent in my regrets.In the evening I called her just to ask her about her day.It was a courteous call.
I had already worked out in my mind her answers to my call.So when she said that the event never took place because they had to vacate the house they were living in immediately.
This made me realise that this break up in relationship of Today and Tomorrow is consequence of human behavipr  which has become absolutely insensitive to trouble and pain of others.

Today and Tomorrow

Today and Tomorrow both start with T but both differ in essence and time frame. Today makes Tomorrow. Or does it?

I have planned a long way, have been saving like an ant all my life, but life is a grasshopper it lives by day( hope you know the story of Ant and Grasshopper where the ant saves for winters and grasshopper plays).

Now don’t get me wrong and splurge to blow away all your savings but learn a lesson:

Do not wait for tomorrow to be happy, to share, to laugh, to care and to tell somebody you love him/her.

Do not waste time in fighting, crying and pampering your massive ego.

Enjoy every moment whether good or bad as neither bad nor good is here to stay. 

Jewels and Me

My love for jewelry in inherited from my aunt.my mother on other hand has never shown any interest in it.I do not recall her visiting any jeweler all these years to buy any trinket for herself.

In the beginning years of my life I was like her, one odd gold bangle and two- three pars of silver earrings were enough.In fact in all my teen life i did not buy any thing.One because of lack of interest and other because of allergy to metals other than gold.

It was only in my late twenties that the genetic heritage started growing.I started exploring all that could be bought in gold and fitted my small pocket.It was an interesting journey but also gold became un-affordable soon.

Then I turned my attention to silver and I realised that silver jewellery had touched new heights while I was busy running after gold.

So then started my love for silver I bought lot of variety as it was considerably cheaper than gold.But as they say good time does not last for long.One day I woke to the fact that even silver was beyond especially if you want to buy something fancy.

So I dropped to new depths that is artificial jewelry.

Mind you as in case of silver, by the time I dropped to the level of artificial jewelry it had gained new height.

Voila! artificial had reached the price I had started with gold.

So the lesson here is

Do not restrict your options, because when you turn around to an option you might find it is beyond you.

A breed apart ...........

Parents are indeed a breed apart ,,  they see nothing but their own children and will go to any extent to show them off ..  my morning walk brings out so many of these...

There is the angry young man who wages a war with his neighbour over even a leaf falling into his balcony..  when he comes out with his little one in the morning , it is a new avatar altogether.  Every passerby is either a grandma or aunt who has perforce to say hello to his child and listen to all his banter.  

Then there is the Mercedes owner who believes all the roads are exclusive playgrounds for his twin sons.  
One is always on a bicycle with training wheels and whizzes around as if he is the sole inhabitant of the planet while the other is a cricketeer in the making.  All three occupy the two ends of the society gate with scant regard to the risk they pose to the rest of the traffic - cars, two wheelers and pedestrians.

The third one is the most interesting - every morning the school bus stops at their gate - the conductor gets down and walks up to the gate and opens it.  Then the door of the house opens and two boys of about 8 and 11 rush out with their mother in tow.  The conductor has to arrest the speed of the two to ensure that they cross the road safely while the mother shouts instructions to the conductor, the driver, the two children and the rest of the school in the bus - the best part is, this is not just a one day occurrence, I see it almost every morning and wonder how long the drama will continue. 

human and parents: Destiny-Construction Workers

human and parents: Destiny-Construction Workers: Some of us have destiny of Construction Workers.You must be wondering at this type of destiny.It seems very unique but trust me there will...

Destiny-Construction Workers

Some of us have destiny of Construction Workers.You must be wondering at this type of destiny.

It seems very unique but trust me there will be some around you too who have this specific destiny style.This destiny style is gifted by God to chosen few as all do not have strength to endure it.

How to recognize these gifted few?Very easy!You just have to observe the pattern of their life .Mind you this is applicable to both professional and personal life.Though I feel those with this destiny in personal life are quiet a few and are termed as PARENTS so we will not talk about them.

We will talk about professionals with such destiny.They are the ones who are the member of core group of every start up but are only there till the start up gets into working mode.

You will not see them as part of any organisation for long.They will be only part of that organisation till it has lot of dynamic issues that need mind boggling attention and time.They will be the ones who will be spending beyond possible working hours to put things in order.Their stay in organisation can vary according to the need of the organisation to settle so can be from 2 to 5 maximum 8 years.

You will see them working like mad and once all is done, you will see that they are made so uncomfortable that they have to look for change.And mind you they again enter other organisation with same needs and the cycle goes on. 

WHAT SHOULD PARENTS GIVE …

A few children saw a beautiful butterfly struggling to get out of its cocoon.  In their kindness, they cut the cocoon and set the butterfly free only to find it dead within a few moments.  Its wings did not enough to help it fly.  It was the struggle that strengthened the wings !

Parents sometimes become like these ignorant children – they take away the struggle from their children and make them weaklings..  the mother walking to the bus stop with two backpacks and two young children in tow, the other shouting at the school teacher  for her child’s poor performance, yet another one running from activity to activity, looking for the best tuition teacher and changing her/him soon as the child’s performance goes down, telling the school why  it cannot teach something because his or her child finds it tough – all these, may be more are classic examples . 

Such parents are missing two things in life

 – good, strong children that can stand on their own and look after them in their twilight years

-          The joy of achievement.

Nothing can take the place of the glow of  pride on the face of a father or mother who  has walked like a safety net behind a struggling child. 

Time and Speed

The law says time and speed are inversely proportional i.e. if we increase speed we use less time and vice verse. But in real life they seem to be related.The speed with which our time frame changes is remarkable.

You do not even realise and suddenly everything around you changes.The only thing you can do is accept because you are not even given opportunity to react.But does our time frame really change so fast or is the speed really inversely proportional to time.

Yes the law is true only we ignore the small happenings because we do not want to accept it.We keep our eyes closed when we see the kegs of time frame changing.We do not let our mind question the reasoning behind it because we want to hold on to the present time frame as it is more comfortable and stable.

But are we the driver of this change? No!Then why not be more attuned and observant.Not that it will help to avert what is going to happen but it will help us to be ready to accept.

Hence when the wave of change comes ride it!

Love and Hate

As you move on with life you realise that some of the relationships that you have banked on are no longer with you.This also makes you feel sad that you had wasted so much effort on the maintenance of these relations.There are so many times during the journey of life that you wanted to call a spade a spade but you avoid just so that you do not loose the relation .You stand all kind of nonsense just so that you have those people around in future, in fact most of the time you are miserable with them around in present but still carry on for the future.

Is it really right?
Is it going to work ?
Is it worth?
Why do we do that to ourselves?
Why are we not able to realise that those who are not true to us in present will only be a liability in future?
Why are we so scared of change that we hang on unworthy people?

Think it is really worth a thought.

Should we hang on or let go!

NaMo and motivation

I live in quite posh area where I feel some of the houses have assistant for their helpers too. Yesterday on 2nd October I was pleasantly surprised when I went for morning walk to the park nearby. The daily walkers were all over the place armed with black garbage bags and gloves. They were cleaning every possible part of the park. Some were even cleaning the toilets of the park. Mind you these are the same people who must have never raised a finger in their houses. It was very heart warming to see how NaMo managed to mobilize the crowd.