My Best-est!

"Doing the Best means Never to Stop Trying"
It is such a powerful statement! It adds an element of newness to our action every time because our best needs to go to the next level every time. So there is nothing that cannot be improved and there is everything that can be explored.
Fun isn't it!

bondage

I was watching "Imitation Games " yesterday. The movie is about a great mathematician who saves 14 million people in the world war by breaking the message code of German's. The mathematician turns out to be homosexual and is persecuted for it. The fact that the movie was based on true story, saddened me at the pettiness of humanity, how can we negate all man's doing on his sexual pleasure. Is this such an important part of a person that it can encompass all his doing.

My Fortune

What makes us discontented with our condition is the absurdly exaggerated idea we have of the happiness of others. French Proverb

Isn't it so true! We are not so much miserable with our misfortune as we are with fortune of others. But then that’s what makes us human. We are so engrossed with others life that sometimes we forget to live our own. We see a person lesser prettier/ handsome than us we are so pleased, we see a person worst dressed than us in the party we do not miss a chance to ridicule him, we need a reassurance by seeing a less fortunate to realise our fortune. Why?

I know no man is island but that does not justify our behaviour. We need to rise above this mental segregation of people and look for our happiness in what we have and not in what others do not have.

Nepal-Lesson We are Not Learning

The devastation is so extreme!
The common man stands at loss, who has not even been part of all those decisions where laws must have been violated in favour of profit. The nature has decided to be relentless when it has realised that so is man. But in this game the looser is the one who had nothing harm in the first place except may be not revolted.

Journey or Destiny

 Happiness is a journey... not a destination. Ben Sweetland

When I shall get it I shall be happy and as soon as I get it I realise either that it is not enough or it is not what I actually perceived it to be. So I am again at zero level of happiness. I again search for a new avenue to make me happy. The search is endless.

So instead if we enjoy the journey to our epitome of happiness there are chances that we can be happy for longer period of time.

Tomorrow’s another day

These lines are from Sydney Sheldon’s,”Tell Me Your Dreams”.

Sandra studied her husband’s troubled face. “Did Mr. Kincaid say anything about the partnership, David?”

He shook his head. “No.”

Sandra said brightly, “He will. Tomorrow’s another day.”

This is what keeps us all going isn’t it. This faith that there will be change of scenario tomorrow, this hope that there will be light at the end of tunnel keeps us facing the challenges that have power to break us. This is what life is all about.

This is the biggest distress mantra too!

Because there are somethings going on in every-bodies life which require the support of this thought.

My Life's Purpose

The purpose of our lives is to be happy. Dalai Lama

But we are miserable most of the time.

Is it because of others?

Or is it because of our reaction to others?

I am unhappy because my ego which I value a lot is hurt by others, isn’t it?

Now I cannot control the behavior of other but I can always control my reaction to it.

So next time when some action or words by other seems to dampen your happiness, change your reaction to it. Do not let anybody take away your purpose of life.

Now or Never

The trick is in what one emphasizes. We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same.
Carlos Castaneda

Is it so? I feel we use more energy to be miserable. We do not let ourselves enjoy anything because we scare ourselves in believing that every good will be followed by worst and we miss our chance of enjoying the good.
Try some day to just enjoy the moment and let the , " Doubting Tom ", take a day off!

Silence

I observed a very interesting phenomena lately, that silence is very peaceful and soothing. Due to changes in my life recently I am in my own company most of the time and trust me it is fun. I do things my way. I suddenly realised I  am not an extrovert but an introvert.
In fact all of us need to be introvert for some time. It gives us chance to be with our selves. It also is a good opportunity to align to the almighty and realise the strength He gives us.
Try sometimes!

human and parents: Did You All Miss Me?

human and parents: Did You All Miss Me?: Well I missed you all. I felt a part of me was away but the life was on a roll a coaster ride so needed some time to set it in order. So I ...

Did You All Miss Me?

Well I missed you all. I felt a part of me was away but the life was on a roll a coaster ride so needed some time to set it in order. So I am back with lot of thoughts to share. 
I had a near miracle experience in life where I saw many relations unfold and present them selves in new dimension. I learnt meaning of "Each one for Self ". 
It is a hard truth of life but then that is the beauty of life, it shows you new paths and directions to teach you newer lessons.

I am the JUDGE

Paulo Coelho tweeted ,"It is so easy, yet so few can distance themselves from judging others."

It is such a simple truth about all of us. We are always assessing whom ever we meet. We will first assess on the basis of looks then clothes  then the place they belong to ... . The list is endless.

I learnt the flaw of this habit at a very young age. At that time I was only 23 years old and so full of myself and my intelligence in judging others. Here I was waiting for the bus at a deserted bus stop with only another young lady for company. All this while I had made my assessment of  the young lady on the basis of her very simple clothes and even simpler looks. I had rejected her as a commoner who according to me was certainly below my level of social status and of course certainly below my level of educational status.So as the destiny will have it I was in for a big lesson. The girl confirmed with me the bus number that could drop her at the same place as I was going. When I told her that I was waiting for the same bus to go to the same place, she asked me directions to a particular temple in the vicinity which she wanted to visit as she wanted to sit there to decide which of the two courses she should take on in her masters as she had got into two most prestigious courses in IIT. I was embarrassed at all what I had assumed about her. But as a good student I learnt the lesson of avoiding to judge and wait patiently to draw right results.

My happiness My Business

"Happiness? That's nothing more than a good health and a poor memory.", as said by Albert Schweitzer

A very true and potent statement. you must realise it is most of the times the happenings of our past that haunt us. It is not that present is free of worries or for that matter, we have realised the futility of worrying about future,no. But past happenings have their good share in our miseries so poor memory will help us to get rid of that baggage at least.

So let us be little forgetful and choosy. Pack in your basket of memories with good thoughts and happy memories. Discard all those unhappy thoughts which will only add burden to your heart.

Another important ingredient for happiness as suggested by Albert is health. Health means self, so you see  both the ingredients are within your control, so your happiness is within your control. So let nothing stop you from being happy.

Am I There yet?

We are always running out of time to do things we want to do. We have endless number of excuses for not doing them in spite of the fact that we sincerely want to do them.
Who are we fooling?
We need to get strict with ourselves in order to achieve what we want to achieve to improve ourselves. It is our obligation to our inner self to take us to highest order of achievement in the field we have chosen for ourselves. The only and most important thing to mind is that we do not step on any bodies feet let alone head.
So let us stretch ourselves to extremes.

Sands of Time or Timelessness

Plato said ,"Practice Dying".
Some say,"Live Fullest".
Are these two sides of the same coin?

Yes!
To practice dying means we are assuming that there is no tomorrow so all what we are doing today needs to be in such a shape that somebody else can benefit from it tomorrow even if we are not around. This means we should make most of today. Now to make most of today does not mean to work endlessly. It means not to postpone things to tomorrow, especially those which can give pleasure to others and self.

The sands of time is slipping out of our hand every moment so each moment is important. We only realise the importance of these tiny moments when we are sitting at the red light and waiting it to be green. We are so restless in those few seconds and are so upset at the time lost, without ever realising the loss of those endless hours when we are busy thinking wistfully about our past or planning vehemently about our future. These hours are wasted as we are able to do nothing about the either, however hard we try.

Walk In to Walk Out

The French Mathematician, Blaise Pascal wrote,"All man's miseries derive from not being able to sit quietly in a room alone."

I feel ability to sit alone is not the biggest challenge, the bigger challenge is to be able to accept that in spite of so many known and unknown faces around you, you are technically alone in this world!

The acceptance of this loneliness with grace and not getting upset over it is the sign of maturity.As soonn as this acceptance comes in what Blaise suggests happens with out effort. Because to turn inwards towards your inner self will only happen when you shut the doors outside.

Now before you assume that we can only get into meditation state when we forsake the world, let me rephrase my suggestion. I feel we need to get into meditation mode first and the realisation of isolation in crowd will follow naturally. The more closer you will get to your inner self more with drawn you will be from the outer world. Again don't jump guns, when I say with drawn I mean you will have the strength to pass through pains and pleasures of daily life without an issue.

Poorly Rich

God has a unique sense of humor which is very visible in his creation, that is us.

I know of this interesting creature who has been bestowed with best of world's riches. He has all a person can ask for in terms of good life. He has the luxury of buying anything he puts his heart on. But then where is the twist in the tail?

The twist in the tale is another gift that God has given him. The gift of thriftiness.
And a very potent gift!
He cannot spend a penny without being sad about it. He even cannot spend on himself so spending on others is beyond question. On the other hand his father is a typical rich fellow who spends lavishly. This habit of his father is painful for this little fellow that he stoops to the level of removing some notes from the pile his father would keep as tip after a hearty lunch at five star.

I can give endless examples to prove his thriftiness but I am more keen to discuss the phenomenon behind this set up. It seems as if God was forced to give him this luxurious life style much against His wish, so to ensure that it is a win-win situation for God, He put this small thought of thriftiness inside this little fellow, so that in spite of all his riches he has no pleasure in spending that money. So in totality he is poorer than the poorest as even a poor fellow is able to extract pleasure by spending what ever meager he has.

Am I better off?

Nothing prevents happiness like the memory of happiness. - Andre Gide

Am I unhappy today because I am not as happy as I was in past. Isn't it a funny tongue twister sentence with no clear meaning.

But that is the fact of life. our past happiness always looms over our present happiness. In fact the past happiness prevents present happiness and cycle is continuous vicious circle.  We have this innate knack to relentlessly search in our past to find a situation at least when we were better off than present. 
And what does this discovery do?
Yes , it makes our present worst.
So learn to forget past, do not open compare chart every time you have something to rejoice and always be happy at every smallest chance that life gives you.

Accept or Revolt

Happiness can exist only in acceptance. As quoted by George Orwell.

Acceptance of what?
What is the level or degree of acceptance?
Is it right to accept always?

Yes most disturbing questions.
Is my happiness dependent on my acceptance of all imperfections of my life?
If so then how to decide how much should I accept?
And by accepting certain aspects of my life am I not paying a very big price for happiness?

Is this what is true happiness?
For once I have no answers but more questions.

My Happiness My Responsibility

Aristotle quoted,"Happiness belongs to the self-sufficient ".

I can only interpret this in one way, that my happiness is totally dependent on me. I am responsible for my smile and I can take full care of maintaining it. The only way this is possible is if I am always able to the sliver of light in the darkest of times. Tough but not impossible! And what makes it possible is the relentless faith of humanity in God that made humanity survive world wars and holocaust.