Parents and Self Pity

This is an interesting fact but true for most of the parents.We always feel and are absolutely sure that we have not got a decent deal as parents.
Our siblings have better kids who are academically smart,good at games ... the list is endless.

Do we ever look into ourselves and realize that our kids are manifestations of our deeds and thoughts.May be we did not hope hard enough for them to succeed How do we measure success? Is success not relative term? Isn't happiness more important?

Acceptance and Patience

Deepak Chopra tweeted: Each of us is a unique strand in the intricate web of life and here to make contribution.

Parents should be a firm believer of this thought. This will make their journey of growing up kids peaceful as they will not worry themselves to death thinking what future has en stored for their children.
This will also give freedom to children to pursue their dreams as they will have this faith that they are all part of a bigger picture.

beautiful people

I sometimes ponder on this .How does beauty define a person? Does it help the person to be  better human being because he/she has that gift or does it make him/her vain.What is the ideology behind this gift of GOD.

Choose Your Child

Yes, choose your child..

We as parent may not be able to decide and work out the material success our child will have, but we can choose the behavior of our child. We can help our child in becoming a better human being.It will not be easy as you have to be role model first. You have to resist ALL TEMPTATIONS of short cuts, whether it is to give away to anger or avoid doing the right thing or even as small as bitching about your neighbour.In nut shell bring up BEHAVIORALLY sound kids will take away the simple pleasures from your life.Next stage is appreciation of right and discussion of wrong.This is very essential.You have to be always sighting examples to your kids of whatever you see around, however minuscule, but appreciable has to be pointed out. The right action by your child has to be appreciated. But wrong action by your kid has to be DISCUSSED, please not I have not used words punished or reprimand as this will take child away from you. You need to give them the confidence that you will understand their mistake then only they will come forward and discuss with you.  So please discuss and make them understand their error.

And in return enjoy the chance of choosing your child.

Parents and Friends

As you move into grind of parenting you're whole perspective of life changes. The friends you had cherished all along also change. You get a new set of friends. Set in Mathematics is a well-defined collection of objects and the inner bond behind this set is kids. This set will comprise of two types of people -one which are required friends -the fellow parents whose kids are in the same class as your child, mind you this is a large part of this set because in the present scenario of fierce competition we want our child to excel in all, so they have n number of classes so as a result n number of parents enter this set.Next are those friends who like our child in spite of their shortcomings and support us in the journey of growing them, these are the cherished lot who have that strong love for you to stand by you in your hour of need and trust me these are those who help you in this tough journey....

Do we love or fear God

God as we know him...
God has always been a mystery which we have not been able to solve till date. Across the time we see how in all civilizations God has been an object of fear. New and innovative ways were worked out to please God.
The events were all related to pleasing God by torturing the self which is very funny as to how this ideology developed that God will be satisfied if we are unhappy-uncomfortable and even in pain.

God should be about love-unconditional -unrewarded love.We should be able to love him for what he stands and should have no expectations from him.And if we do not have expectations then we shall also not assume that anything wrong in our life is due to him.

Humans and God

Why does a human seek God....

God's existence and survival across the ages of humanity is an interesting example of persistence on part of God and human.Over and again the existence of God has been questioned. And each time he has come back with greater conviction.The faith of humanity in God has been a subject of discussion across humanity with no bar of place-society-race.When we look for a common thread in existence of humanity across the differences created by land-race-language-society ,it is God.God is the most sought after -most loved-most hated- most wanted persona.