That is a constant question in any parents mind.
A recent discussion with my son on ‘retaliation’ brought it
back into mine.
I have always been proud of the fact that he never
retaliated with anger or violence at another child.If someone hit him, he would
come home to ask “Should I hit so and so back ?”
It was the same with his little sister who would strike at
him when she was angry or upset . I
cannot recall one occasion when he hit her back.
So much so, when he had a bicycle, he would keep cycling the
whole day and even tried to teach his sister.
One of the neighbours who had been observing him came back to tell me of
his patience with her – how every time she lost her balance and fell down, she
would howl and hit at him. And how he
would simply pick up the cycle and coax her to learn again.
Today, as an adult
he feels that it is one of the greatest drawbacks in his nature – his lack of
retaliation. When he is hurt, he simply
keeps it to himself and does not hit back at the person concerned.
Did I teach him right ?
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