Did I do it right ?

That is a constant question in any parents mind. 

A recent discussion with my son on ‘retaliation’ brought it back into mine. 

I have always been proud of the fact that he never retaliated with anger or violence at another child.If someone hit him, he would come home to ask “Should I hit so and so back ?”

It was the same with his little sister who would strike at him when she was angry or upset .  I cannot recall one occasion when he hit her back. 

So much so, when he had a bicycle, he would keep cycling the whole day and even tried to teach his sister.  One of the neighbours who had been observing him came back to tell me of his patience with her – how every time she lost her balance and fell down, she would howl and hit at him.  And how he would simply pick up the cycle and coax her to learn again. 

  Today, as an adult he feels that it is one of the greatest drawbacks in his nature – his lack of retaliation.  When he is hurt, he simply keeps it to himself and does not hit back at the person concerned. 

Did I teach him right ? 

Nigeria Red

What are we inviting and why?
Do we not feel the pain of death of fellow human?
How do we justify our action?
Can we be right in being unconcerned with issues that do not trouble our peace?
Are we not all assuming that this cannot happen to us?
Should we not all across world raise our voices of nonacceptance of such large massacre?

Worry Box

Create your worry box and keep your worries there is suggested by many.But is it really possible. Are we able to let go of our worries ? No!
We like to carry them around like a baggage. We stop ourselves from enjoying the pleasure that particular moment gives because we feel we do not deserve it. There are some in fact most of the worries which we cannot do much about. So then why do we hold on to them?
We hold on to them because we feel guilty that if we do not worry enough that means we are not taking on the responsibility we have been given. And this is so true of Parent Class. As parent we feel responsible for everything about our children. And if by chance we become enlightened enough to realise there is as much we can do, we have a set of well meaning relatives who always keep on reminding us what all we should be worrying about!
But trust me there is as much you can do as Parent so let the things flow and this time when you pack as set of worries in worry box do them for good!

Paris Hit

The attack in Paris is a proof of need to wake up to the fact that the danger of losing peace to war is very near and quiet real. We all as responsible citizens of the world need to re access our way of functioning so that we do not take our kids back to the dark world of war. 
It has taken a lot of time to recover from the war horrors, why do we want to go there again...  
Let us lead the world to peace and harmony not war....

Where is the answer?

Rainer Maria Rilke said,"...have patience with everything that remains unsolved in your heart. Try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books written in a foreign language. Do not now look for the answers. They cannot now be given to you because you cannot live with them. It is the question of experiencing them. At present you need to live the question. Perhaps you will gradually, without even noticing it, find yourself experiencing the answer, some distant day."

Everyday we traumatize ourselves with the question"WHY ME?". Let us take a lesson from this thought that each of our question is a sapling that will grow at its own pace. As a good gardener we will water it, protect it but not pull it out to check its progress. One day at the right time it will bear fruit.

Busy as Ants

Thoreau said,'It is not enough to be busy, so are the ants. The question is what are you so busy about?'
We need to prioritize things in our life. Unknowingly we concentrate our energy on the mundane things that are important but not essential. We need to take this decision every hour how we are going to spend the next hour. It is an exercise which we have to remind ourselves to do first few days then it will become our habit.

Motivate My Self

New Year Resolution
Try saying encouraging things to yourself. 
Say and mean it.
Mean and believe it.

This year let us pull out the best in ourselves. Let us touch new heights of success in all small things we can think of. Let the doubting Tom rest in peace. Our belief in ourselves can take us places beyond our imagination. Hold on tight to your beliefs, You might slip a few times but do not give up.

So this year the resolution is not a target but a habit which can achieve all possible targets.