Children and Mathematics
I recall one of many conversations with my mother on this.My mother is a typical parent.parent. In fact she is a parent and a Capricorn so a deadly combination.
Let me explain the intensity of this combination.The typical trait of a Parent I have already explained but a combination of parent and Capricorn can only be understood by those who have such parents.These are most and when I say most I mean most possessive out of any other type of parents.
So that makes me a lucky special child as I have a mother who is on constant en devour to make my life live able. So this means not only worrying about my present but future too.
Now that I have given you the background let me get back to the conversation.She said she is lucky to have us as her kids as we care for her but I should be careful as I am dealing with a very-very materialistic generation so I should not have any expectations from them(my kids).At that time I gave her a very logical answer as to how intelligent and aware I am .How I have not pinned any hopes on them and I have a fool proof retirement plan ready.
But yesterday an interesting thought stuck me.
Our relationship with our kids is same as God's relationship with us.
As we are only takers from God with out his expecting any return why can't we do the same with our kids.Can we not just give lots n lots of love-care without any expectation of return?
Can we not enjoy the journey of growing our kids without the calculations of return to the favours given coming in?
I recall one of many conversations with my mother on this.My mother is a typical parent.parent. In fact she is a parent and a Capricorn so a deadly combination.
Let me explain the intensity of this combination.The typical trait of a Parent I have already explained but a combination of parent and Capricorn can only be understood by those who have such parents.These are most and when I say most I mean most possessive out of any other type of parents.
So that makes me a lucky special child as I have a mother who is on constant en devour to make my life live able. So this means not only worrying about my present but future too.
Now that I have given you the background let me get back to the conversation.She said she is lucky to have us as her kids as we care for her but I should be careful as I am dealing with a very-very materialistic generation so I should not have any expectations from them(my kids).At that time I gave her a very logical answer as to how intelligent and aware I am .How I have not pinned any hopes on them and I have a fool proof retirement plan ready.
But yesterday an interesting thought stuck me.
Our relationship with our kids is same as God's relationship with us.
As we are only takers from God with out his expecting any return why can't we do the same with our kids.Can we not just give lots n lots of love-care without any expectation of return?
Can we not enjoy the journey of growing our kids without the calculations of return to the favours given coming in?
"Can we not enjoy the journey of growing our kids without the calculations of return to the favours given coming in?"
ReplyDeleteThat really is the one thing we can do. We love them - but love for them means letting them grow - I think Amitabh put it beautifully in Baghbaan. Children are plants in the garden of life and like a good gardener we have to tend and let them grow. The seed for their growth, the blue print for what they will be is already laid ages ago in their genes. Parents nurture them till their qualities manifest and then give them the wings to fly. Just as god trusts us to remember him, when we trust them to remember us, they do and the returns they give us are a thousand times more than what we can imagine.
It is just that some grow at expected levels and others like the proverbial chinese bamboo, lie dormant for years together and then shoot up.!!
Every morning I do thank god for my children who are helping me grow even today and expanding my horizons every single day.
One evening, during a recent visit, I was trying to get my son (My first born) to listen to me - as usual without much success. I shot my brahmaastra " you have to listen to me, I am your mother and I am older".
Like a boomerang came his question "When did you become a mother ?"
"The moment you were born"
"There you are" he quipped. "You as mother and I as your son are the same age - we were born at the same moment".
:)